How to Deal with the Mental and Emotional Effects of Divorce

 Posted on March 17, 2019 in Divorce

For many people, the time they went through their divorce may have been the worst time of their lives. No matter whether you wanted out of the marriage or not, from the moment of your separation until well after the divorce is final can be a period of uncertainty and loneliness. Legal missteps during this time can affect the rest of your life, so it is important that you try to remain as mentally and emotionally well during this time.

Coping Tips

1. Acknowledge your feelings, allow yourself to have them, and deal with them in healthy ways. Rather than trying to push down the wide range of emotions you are facing, try working on self-improvement and stress relievers, like working out at the gym, going for a walk, or talking things through with a close friend.
2. Take care of yourself. Do not allow yourself to wallow in sorrow or anger. Eat healthily, get plenty of rest, even if you are having trouble sleeping, and do not turn to alcohol or drugs as coping mechanisms. These can lead to poor decisions and lifelong issues., so tread carefully.
3. Make sure your attorney is handling your case in the way you want. If there are specific issues that you want to make sure are taken care of, make sure to communicate those necessities to your lawyer. Heed your attorney’s advice, but also offer input to ensure your needs are being met. Having things taken care of from a legal standpoint will take a lot of stress and worry off of your shoulders.
4. Avoid arguing with your spouse (or ex-spouse). It will be tempting to answer every call, text, or email, and often you will want to get some anger and disappointment off your chest, but unfortunately, this can, and most likely will, lead to even more negative emotions piling onto you.
5. Spend time with loved ones. You need friendships and support during a divorce. You may also need some alone time to reflect, but do not allow yourself to be too closed off from the people who love you and want to help you through this difficult time.
6. If you have children, reassure them, and try to keep up their regular activities as much as possible. Do not drag them into the conflict, but rather try to remain as positive as you can around them. However, also be honest about the situation and let them know that they also are entitled to their feelings, and be open for them to talk to you about the situation.

Contact an Elmhurst Attorney for Help with Your Divorce

The attorneys at Weiss-Kunz & Oliver, LLC, are knowledgeable and ready to help you through your divorce. Contact an experienced Elmhurst attorney to iron out the details that will keep your divorce process as stress-free as it can be. Call 312-605-4041 to schedule a consultation.

 

Source:

http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/separation-and-divorce